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My favorite title is "Mom". Joe is the best! I am a firm believer that God exists. I usually vote Democrat. What else do you want to know? Oh yes, I am fortunate enough to be blessed with a great family and good friends.

Tuesday, November 21, 2006

Un-for-tu-nate: meeting with unexpected reverses; unsuitable

Soul-mate: a person with whom one has a strong affinity

Un-for-tu-nate Soul-mate: a person with whom one has a strong connection but they are simply unsuited for one another.

I believe this best discribes my relationship with a certain someone whom I have known for 20 years. If you know me (or even him) then you know of whom I speak. When we initially met there was an instant spark or connection or chemistry, whatever you want to call it. Over the course of the next 10 years we would meet in passing but circumstances kept us from "acting on this chemistry". Ten years later, after I was married with child and he was married with child (and another on the way) he would pick up the phone and ask me to help him with a show he was putting on. We have been a main factor in each other's life ever since. It would be five years after that and two divorces later that we would finally act on that chemistry and I knew beyond a shadow of a doubt that the connection was bigger then both of us. I recognized immediately at that time I was truly, madly, deeply in love. It was the first time I truly understood the term "soulmate". It was also the first time I knew what being "in love" actually felt like.

The "unfortunate" part would come into play soon after that. There were those who saw it immediately and others who (til this day) hope and pray we will come back together but this last year has proven to me over and over again that we are as my friend Jon so tenderly put it, "you two are 'unfortunate soulmates' ". It brought tears to my friend Deb's eyes but she knew her husband spoke the truth.

I accept this with open arms. We have proven over and over again that nothing (and certainly no one) can come between our friendship. Our interaction can and certainly has been misunderstood but I know beyond a shadow of a doubt that we are simply meant to be in each other's life and we were never meant to go beyond a certain point. We are the dearest of friends and I will treasure that always. It is a power stronger then both of us that keeps us at a very close distance.

Today I treasure our friendship and our significant others who understand the bond between us and never try to pry us apart. These two people of whom I speak are wonderful and incredible human beings. They both know that in embracing us they must embrace our friendship. It shows me they are both very secure in their relationships with us and very strong within themselves. I love and admire both of them. And when I give 'thanks' on Thursday it will be for our significant others.

I also want to give thanks to every person who has been involved in this emotional roller coaster over the last 6 years. You all have been kind, patient, loving and most of all, extremely understanding as I have not made it easy on anyone but as the song goes "I am what I am". Thank you all for embracing that.