"DADDY" WORTHY
I had a conversation with my Amanda. She is 16 years old and goes to school with my son. They recently did a show together. She mentioned one weekend that her dad was in town but wouldn't be coming to the show. He lives in LA and was here briefly to pick up his new wife and they were heading back to LA. She said she wasn't surprised by his brief visit but his brief visit hurt her brother. She said to me "there are 2 kinds of men in this world, one that is worthy of the title "daddy" and one that will never be anything more then just "dad". Although, I think the title "dad" does not even apply to those that are not "daddy" worthy but I totally understood where she was coming from. She accepted this about her father and wanted her brother to accept it too. She no longer wanted to see her brother hurt. I told her that Joe has a "dad" just like her own and he seems to have accepted this trait in his own father.
A friend of mine recently told me that his former spouse had had it with their 8 year old son and no longer wanted him living with her. (he simply is not "perfect enough") He recently went to live with his "daddy". My friend said that his son seems fine but he feels something must be going on inside and what do we do to make our kids not feel the rejection they must be going through. As I sat next to him crying my eyes out at the thought of this young boy being rejected by a very selfish mother I realized that my friend was "daddy worthy". I told my friend that our children were lucky to have at least one parent that loved them unconditionally and was there through better or worse.
To me it is interesting that both our former spouses were able to re-marry saying those same vows they said to us. What is more interesting is that we as parents say those vows (privately) when we bring children into this world. If you can break these vows to your children you can certainly break them with your current spouse. Of course, if you can marry someone who has 'rejected' their child then you deserve all the heartache that comes with that. (and yes, moving away from your child is a form of rejection)
So my dear Amanda their are plenty of men out there that are "daddy worthy" so choose wisely when your time comes. My dear sweet girl, people will continue to disappoint us so hold on to the good and use the bad as a learning tool. You'll get there, girlie, because you have the right idea.
Much love,
"Mommy" Jeanine
I had a conversation with my Amanda. She is 16 years old and goes to school with my son. They recently did a show together. She mentioned one weekend that her dad was in town but wouldn't be coming to the show. He lives in LA and was here briefly to pick up his new wife and they were heading back to LA. She said she wasn't surprised by his brief visit but his brief visit hurt her brother. She said to me "there are 2 kinds of men in this world, one that is worthy of the title "daddy" and one that will never be anything more then just "dad". Although, I think the title "dad" does not even apply to those that are not "daddy" worthy but I totally understood where she was coming from. She accepted this about her father and wanted her brother to accept it too. She no longer wanted to see her brother hurt. I told her that Joe has a "dad" just like her own and he seems to have accepted this trait in his own father.
A friend of mine recently told me that his former spouse had had it with their 8 year old son and no longer wanted him living with her. (he simply is not "perfect enough") He recently went to live with his "daddy". My friend said that his son seems fine but he feels something must be going on inside and what do we do to make our kids not feel the rejection they must be going through. As I sat next to him crying my eyes out at the thought of this young boy being rejected by a very selfish mother I realized that my friend was "daddy worthy". I told my friend that our children were lucky to have at least one parent that loved them unconditionally and was there through better or worse.
To me it is interesting that both our former spouses were able to re-marry saying those same vows they said to us. What is more interesting is that we as parents say those vows (privately) when we bring children into this world. If you can break these vows to your children you can certainly break them with your current spouse. Of course, if you can marry someone who has 'rejected' their child then you deserve all the heartache that comes with that. (and yes, moving away from your child is a form of rejection)
So my dear Amanda their are plenty of men out there that are "daddy worthy" so choose wisely when your time comes. My dear sweet girl, people will continue to disappoint us so hold on to the good and use the bad as a learning tool. You'll get there, girlie, because you have the right idea.
Much love,
"Mommy" Jeanine
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