I recently heard Garth Brooks say that the sign that you are "grown up" is when you live life for someone else. This shouldn't be difficult to do if you are a parent but for some it is.
It made me think that if you are incapable of putting someone before yourself what a sad life you must lead because when you pay it forward it ALWAYS comes back to reward you.
Garth Brooks was talking about his recent marriage to Trisha Yearwood. He said that he needed 4 blessings before he could ask Trisha Yearwood to marry him, 1-his father's; 2-her parents; 3-his children; 4-HIS EX-WIFE! He said the marriage never would have taken place if he didn't have those 4 blessings. He was asked to elaborate on the blessing from his ex-wife. He said that most people stop talking after a divorce but when you have kids it is so important to keep those communication lines open. Also, they both put their children's well being before anything else. As long as she (his ex-wife) knew the kids came first and his new wife put them first as well then he had her blessing.
Too bad not all parents can be this grown up.
Garth Brooks said that his children didn't ask to be born into this family, they didn't ask to be celebrities, they didn't ask that their parents divorce and they didn't ask that their dad re-marry so it was important that all parties, including their mom, was good with this new part of his life. (this should be a given in all situations)
When you think about it it is quite simple. I have often said that I have never had to put my own life on hold by putting Joe first. I have had a productive and fulfilling life AND Joe never had to want for my attention. I also, as I look around, realize that most guys do think like this. My boss is married for the second time but his ex-wife and children want for nothing. His current wife is very much a part of their family and never feels she has had to sacrifice a thing. I met a man last week who also is divorced and has always made sure his ex-wife and daughter are well taken care of and his child never hungers for his attention because he is ALWAYS there for her.
I am not feeling sorry for myself. Honestly, I am not but how did I manage to find the one man who is so very selfish and he managed to marry a very selfish woman? Well as I said so many times before, opposites do attract but the union is short lived and then people end up with someone who is just like them. So it would have been my 17th year anniversary today but thank you God that he is now sharing his life with someone who is just like him. Very sad, though, that we couldn't manage to be friends for Joe's sake but that is Harry's fault. Shame on him and his wife. They would have had my blessing had they thought of Joe before themselves, had they stuck around to be with him through his teen years.
Lucky for me that I have a man (actually ALL my guys) who understands that Joe comes first and I must have his blessing if they want to share their life with US!
It made me think that if you are incapable of putting someone before yourself what a sad life you must lead because when you pay it forward it ALWAYS comes back to reward you.
Garth Brooks was talking about his recent marriage to Trisha Yearwood. He said that he needed 4 blessings before he could ask Trisha Yearwood to marry him, 1-his father's; 2-her parents; 3-his children; 4-HIS EX-WIFE! He said the marriage never would have taken place if he didn't have those 4 blessings. He was asked to elaborate on the blessing from his ex-wife. He said that most people stop talking after a divorce but when you have kids it is so important to keep those communication lines open. Also, they both put their children's well being before anything else. As long as she (his ex-wife) knew the kids came first and his new wife put them first as well then he had her blessing.
Too bad not all parents can be this grown up.
Garth Brooks said that his children didn't ask to be born into this family, they didn't ask to be celebrities, they didn't ask that their parents divorce and they didn't ask that their dad re-marry so it was important that all parties, including their mom, was good with this new part of his life. (this should be a given in all situations)
When you think about it it is quite simple. I have often said that I have never had to put my own life on hold by putting Joe first. I have had a productive and fulfilling life AND Joe never had to want for my attention. I also, as I look around, realize that most guys do think like this. My boss is married for the second time but his ex-wife and children want for nothing. His current wife is very much a part of their family and never feels she has had to sacrifice a thing. I met a man last week who also is divorced and has always made sure his ex-wife and daughter are well taken care of and his child never hungers for his attention because he is ALWAYS there for her.
I am not feeling sorry for myself. Honestly, I am not but how did I manage to find the one man who is so very selfish and he managed to marry a very selfish woman? Well as I said so many times before, opposites do attract but the union is short lived and then people end up with someone who is just like them. So it would have been my 17th year anniversary today but thank you God that he is now sharing his life with someone who is just like him. Very sad, though, that we couldn't manage to be friends for Joe's sake but that is Harry's fault. Shame on him and his wife. They would have had my blessing had they thought of Joe before themselves, had they stuck around to be with him through his teen years.
Lucky for me that I have a man (actually ALL my guys) who understands that Joe comes first and I must have his blessing if they want to share their life with US!
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